Wednesday, January 14, 2009

The worst came true

Almost four years ago, when we were in court on our last day with AJ, we read a six-page statement to the judge. One small sentence stands out, "We worry about the end-results for AJ if it turns out that she decides [parenting] is too much."
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It was too much. For the last 3+ years, Peggy has been physically abusing my precious and perfect little boy, and only him. After he "fell down the stairs" and had a seizure, he was taken to the ER then sent home a few hours later. A few weeks later, he had another seizure and was taken back to the ER. They got suspicious. Aside from the two bleeding neural hematomas, there was evidence of 7 or 8 rib fractures, an arm fracture, and a pelvis fracture. His little body was covered in bruises. He spent four days in Pediatric ICU during which he slept most of the time. He has delayed speech, is very thin, has a slight limp, and can't walk any great distance.
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Peggy has been charged with child abuse, and all three of her children have been removed from her custody. They are living with, and in the legal custody of their grandmother, for the last three weeks.
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Peggy said that he got the brunt of her anger because she couldn't connect with him. The grandmother had suggested over the years that she return him to us. She adamently refused every suggestion that had anything to do with us.
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The 9-month old's baby-daddy says he wants custody of him, but he has no job, no place to live other than Peggy's, and no means to support a child. The older daughter, who witnessed the abuse now mimics the abuse she saw her mother dole out on AJ and has since become abusive to him.
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"We worry about the end-results for AJ if it turns out that she decides [parenting] is too much."

1 comment:

Heather said...

There are no words. I am angry and heartbroken for AJ. And for you.